Dedicated to my mom who celebrates her birthday today!
In 2012, to everyone’s surprise, I chose to stay home and attend to our little princess. My friends thought I had been forced into this decision because they just couldn’t believe that I could take such a drastic step in life. I was a full-time working woman, party animal, choir participant, band crooner and Church Parish youth member; an active one at that! So, none of us envisioned me as a stay-at-home-mother. The very thought was unimaginable.
This month, as she turns 10 (my mom and daughter share the same birthday month), I knew that I would never change that decision for anything in the world!
Here is why I still prefer being a stay-at-home-mom!
Unlike my working husband, I can spend as much time as I want with my kids. I can feed them, guide them, discipline them, make sure they eat less junk and also talk to them if I sense some discomfort or alteration in their behaviour. I can make sure that they are not emotionally disturbed and make sure they know that I am always available to talk it out with, especially as my daughter soon touches the double digits.
Dancing, board games, hugs and kisses – These are the little moments of joy that I live for!
Whether it’s my husband or my kids, each one loves to yap! I don’t think I would have the patience to listen to their intellectual monologues or rambling after a 9-hour shift. One day my son (4-year-old then) stood in front of me to explain how an earthquake takes place. It was a 5-minute-long definition involving the sun, moon and galaxy!
My children have taught me to implement the famous phrase – Patience is a virtue.
Taking care of yourself doesn’t only mean that you eat. You have to eat healthily, eat on time, drink water, sleep well, not over-exert your body and have the time to do things you love. Being an avid reader, I hadn’t read for almost 10 years while I was busy working and dating. No doubt, I had fun but I was depriving myself of a healthy lifestyle. All of a sudden, one day I would sleep for around 16 hours at a stretch bringing wrinkles on my mother’s forehead!
Sleep is the most important activity that tends to get ignored while you’re living your life.
When I was working, I had no patience to boil vegetables or cut fruits after I got home. Now, I make sure that my millets are boiled, fruits are cut, vegetables are prepared and junk eating has reduced as much as possible. Living a healthy lifestyle requires time and patience. I noticed that I was able to reduce junk eating at home because I chose to work as a freelancer. I am not bound by deadlines.
Junk food tastes great, doesn’t it? We indulge in some every now and then just to balance it out! 😉
I have always been the keeping in touch kind and as life got busier, technologies made it easier to say hi. Still, if you are not able to keep in touch it’s merely due to the heavy schedules you have carved for yourselves. But, I feel good when I use the time I have to check on people occasionally.
Staying connected shows that you care; especially when it’s ridiculously easy now-a-days.
Writing is my mojo! But, a writer needs her surroundings to be peaceful and quiet so that she can feel the words coming out from within. I have written more than 300 blogs across several websites and authored 2 e-books, too. I have also begun sending hand-written letters to a few (30 as of today) just because I felt the need to bring a smile to their faces. Would this have been possible if I were working full-time?
I got a different high when I wrote those letters and received joyful appreciation.
Though I’m quite liberal with having toys and drawings all over the house, I like clean surroundings. Every 3 months or so, I go around the house, checking what hasn’t been touched for a while and donate it or throw it away.
There are many things hidden from me due to this tri-monthly activity, but I am the best ‘searcher’ and ‘finder’! Hahaha!
I find gardening quite therapeutic. Taking care of a garden is a little tedious as it requires daily watering, regular spraying, clipping dried leaves/weeds and re-potting. I’m sure that I would have a brown garden if I was working.
Hats off to those who manage a green garden as well as have a full-time job!
During these years, I have given English tuition, organized belly dance workshops and also home-schooled my son. I have also helped people with various other matters. I have taken my children to story-telling sessions and read stories to the underprivileged kids.
Only lately, I see myself as a teacher, though we women are born with the knack of teaching.
Yes, this has been my motto for a lot of things that I had never done before. I have realized that I am packed with various talents with which I can help and support others, too. I have also driven my kids to follow this motto. Of course, they can cry and sit tight when they want but they know that in life, only the words ‘I CAN’ will help them move forward.
The mere thought ‘I CAN’ allows you to do so much more than when you think the opposite.
When my husband suggested that I explore job opportunities, now that both the kids would finally start offline school, I began calculating the time I would have to spend at work. Of course, he knows about me wanting to be around the kids, so, recommended I search for a work from home (WFH) project, as per my skills and convenience.
That got me thinking. Why had I stopped looking for jobs a few years ago? Why did I not want to go to an office anymore? Was it really waking up early that stopped me? Or was it something else? That’s when I began jotting down the pros of being a stay-at-home-mom (despite my blog on being financially independent) and couldn’t believe the woman I’ve come to be. 🙂
Am I the only one who feels this way? Or do you also see the advantages of being a non-career oriented SAHM?