The other day I was telling a friend why I had stopped colouring my hair after 2009. No, it wasn’t because I got married that year but because, well, read on.
I was looking for all the old pictures to prove what I have set out to tell you. But with conking hard drives every 10 years, it seemed close to impossible. Just remember that I’ve tried my best anyway.
So, it all began when I was happy to know that my to-be-hubby’s friend owned a parlour somewhere in the south of Bangalore. On my first or second visit to Bangalore (2007/2008), we met this bunch of friends which ended up with me having a little RED STREAK under the back of my hair. It wasn’t that visible but I was excited about it.
Then came New Year’s 2009. I remember getting back from my Christmas holiday with BLONDE HIGHLIGHTS in my hair. My to-be-hubby was shocked! He said I looked like a zebra. Men, I tell you!!! Anyway, there’s a not-so-great picture below to show you my dwindling highlights.
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In April 2009, Wella needed some sitting models who were willing to get their hair done for free. Perhaps, it was a brand collaboration (because I definitely did not get paid for it) and I submitted my name for it. Who doesn’t love a good hair colouring done for free, right? When I was getting ready to get my hair done, I was strict about leaving my hairstyle the way it was (I had already gone through numerous exciting haircuts before I was struck with some sense to leave my tresses the way they were: long). The hair stylist wasn’t very happy with my decision but said she would give me a PURPLE BALAYAGE. I love purple. She informed me that she would give the fringe (or bangs as they call it now-a-days) a lighter shade than the rest of my hair. I smiled in agreement.
I began observing her every move like she was operating on my heart. She took some paste and applied it to my bangs. After a while she removed it and my bangs were WHITE! She saw the look on my face and assured me that it was required for the bright purple to show. At 26, thoughts like ‘hair damage’, ‘hair health’, etc. are generally ignored from our vocabularies. So, I relaxed. The result was quite pretty, I must say. Here’s a picture of me with my hair just done.
Then May end, I decided to take part in a musical. During the practice sessions and numerous photographs, I was shocked to see that my fringe was turning WHITE. The purple was almost gone. I acted on impulse and turned up for practice the very next day with ORANGISH hair and BRIGHT ORANGE bangs. I had no hair colour at home, so resorted to applying mehendi that night. The result is below!
Then we decided to have an engagement ceremony in July 2009 for the families to meet each other. Here’s a picture of my hair colour on that day. Not bad, right?
By August, I was done with looking like an orange troll doll. I bought black hair colour and did the needful. I was so happy with the look because my natural hair is not jet-black.
My wedding day was set for the second week of September. So, I met with the hair stylist and make-up artist towards the end of August. The hair stylist told me that a good head massage every alternate day would make my hair softer by my wedding day. Plus, I love head massages. Or any massage for that matter.
After work (yes, I used to be a full-time working woman back then), I would freshen up and leave to enjoy a relaxing head massage. It was great until I realised that while I was washing away the hair oil, slowly, the black colour got washed away as well. Again, mehendi came to my rescue overnight. Again, my hair was orangish.
On my wedding day, my hair was tied up and covered with a veil or flowers, so I didn’t have much of an issue trying to hide my confusing hair colours. You can see a bit of my hair colour here in the photoshoot pictures taken a week later.
A few months after my wedding, I realised that my hair was dry and scantier than ever. Though not thick, my hair is naturally straight and smooth. So, I almost cried looking at what I had done to my beautiful hair. Here’s a picture of my hair in January 2010. Though I look decent here, I know how much hair I had on my head.
Soon, I realised two things: Through all of this, I was only torturing my hair, and doing anything permanently unnatural to your hair requires continuous high maintenance which I had no patience for.
That’s when I resolved to NEVER colour my hair again, however much I was tempted to look funky and cool. I WOULD NOT GIVE IN. Since then I’ve seen my hair regaining its volume and strength. Though I don’t diss hair colouring if it’s once in a while, I have decided never to think of hair colouring if it’s not necessary.
This was me at 30 (2012-2013).
And, now this is me at 40! 😉 Of course, the credit for this look also goes to healthy eating, walking, taking care of myself, not using a hair dryer regularly and good photography. But still, I’m proud of my decision to stop messing with my hair till now. Of course, COVID has led to some extra strands of hair leaving my scalp as and when they feel like, but still, I think I’m doing my best not to lose them all.
Have you overdone something that led you to quit or stop it eventually? Let me know in the comments below.