I have to admit that I was quite the jealous cat when I was a child. There have been instances when I have destroyed something only because my friend had it and I didn’t. I have also ruined a surprise because the guy I liked used my help to give my friend the surprise. Sheesh! The things we have done during our childhood! Or am I the only one?
But when we are kids, we are still in the process of figuring out our feelings. What happens when we become adults and are still not sure how to handle those feelings? What do we do then?
Let me tell you a story of how I got around my jealousy feelings, during adulthood, for a particular person.
There was this person (Lola) who seemed to always get what she wanted. With a rich father, she barely had to work her way through anything. I didn’t even have a father so I had to start working at the age of 19 to support my single mom. Lola climbed up the ladder with support from peers, because she had all the time in the world to call and talk people into vouching for her. I had kids to take care of and no time. She had even spoken ill about me to acquaintances behind my back, something I avoid doing even to my enemies. Lastly, she had the money to get whatever she wanted and I didn’t. I felt quite jealous about everything she had and I didn’t.
Yet, I shrugged those thoughts aside and tried not to think too much about them. I smiled at her whenever she greeted me. I have also genuinely helped her, several times, with whatever she needed assistance with. It felt good. It felt great to lend a hand to someone despite my jealous feelings towards them.
And, then I slowly realized that God works in mysterious ways. He gives us things that we need and not what we think we want. While Lola had a still born child, I had two healthy kids. She had money but bad health. I had no money but I definitely had health. She had peers who saw her money, while I had unpretentious friends who loved me. She climbed up the ladder because she had the gift of the gab but then, I thought to myself, ‘did I really want to climb that same ladder? Was I really interested in rising to that particular position? Wasn’t I happier drawing, painting, dancing, being with my kids and following my passion instead?
As you can see, we generally tend to ignore the possessions that we already own because they probably do not involve having money or being rich. We mostly strive to acquire what others have and we don’t. Yes, life is a little tough when you have just enough but is it all that rosy for everyone who seem to have it all?
Therefore, I try and count my blessings for whatever I have instead of feeding my jealousy. I try to make an attempt to think about the positive things in my own life instead of thinking about the positive things in someone else’s life. I try to be a nice human being as much as possible, in whatever situation I am. What about you?
Have you ever felt jealousy towards an acquaintance or a friend? How have you gone about dealing with it? If you’re not sure how to deal with jealousy, try making gratitude bubbles and let us know how you feel.