Many of us feel lonely when we experience various kinds of emotions that we go through. While some of us can talk about the happenings in our lives openly, there are so many of us who cannot. Then what happens when some of us go through a confused set of emotions with no one to talk to? How do we handle ourselves when we do not know what to say? Do we know what is really happening in people’s lives despite all the pomp and show on social media? No, we do not.

Not all of us want to put up our grievances out there, so how do we feel connected to those in similar distress? Unless we communicate, we have to handle our own emotions ourselves. Our husbands and children won’t always understand the decisions we take and so it is impossible to completely rely on them to understand you, every single moment because they have their own stress, emotions and life to handle too, now don’t they? Besides communication, which is not always possible, there is something called ‘the knowledge that you’re not the only one’, that will surely calm your nerves.


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A lot of things have happened in the former six months of this year that has forced me to collate my thoughts and drive them through you. Just wanted to tell you all that you are not alone. Whatever you do, there is always a way to correct it, and there is always someone who will understand you in case you don’t. Think and then go on with your decisions, safe in the knowledge that someone somewhere is taking a similar decision, too, just like you.

For example, I could be the woman, who feels neglected because she has to act normal despite her husband’s philandering ways.

I could be the woman, who terribly misses her adult children, who have moved on with their lives.

I could be the woman, who feels anxious handling the house, children and everything else all by herself, in order to support her husband in his new venture, in another country.

I could be the woman, who feels neglected in her so-called marital bliss and resorts to the people who currently seem to fill her void within.

I could be the woman, who feels lonely now and wonders how to connect with the friends she never gave time to because she had her close knit friends, who have moved away now.

I could be the woman, who feels devastated losing a husband as she is now forced to be a mother as well as a father to her children, who are too young to realise what has happened.

I could be the woman, who feels tired trying her level best to balance a full-time job and a demanding family while keeping in touch with her friends and taking care of herself.

I could be the woman, who feels horrible for dissolving her pregnancy but believes it was needed to be done so that, besides many other things, she avoids the upcoming distance from her young children who presently need her undivided attention.

I could be the exhausted woman, who has lost the last parent and yet, has to be strong for her ailing husband and teenage children.

Why am I not blessed?

I could be the woman, who feels weak but has gathered the courage and made up her mind to end her marriage and fight for the custody of her only child.

I could be the woman, who feels irritable because she loves children with all her heart but her body does not support having them.

I could be the woman, who tries to be brave while fighting cancer or the like knowing that death can come anytime soon.

Whatever is your status quo, know that you are not alone. Many of us are sailing in similar positions. Yet, the way we handle our circumstances totally depend on us. Some of us may do the right things while the others may go the wrong way trying to correct our situations. Nevertheless, I always believe in doing what the heart says we should. After all, I am only human.

A great personal goal for each of us would be to constantly remind ourselves that the world will try to make you someone you are not, but do not doubt yourself despite your situation or do not try to fit into the norms made by other people. Instead, break free from it and believe that our greatest achievement will be when we take pride in ourselves and in our decisions because, after all, we are never alone.

Do you think that you’re the only one?

Cindy D'Silva
Cindy D'Silva
Cindy D'Silva, besides being a mother of two angels, is a belly dancer, writer and photographer. She loves partying, bowling and eating sushi. There is a detailed biography about her on the ABOUT ME page in case you would like to know more. :) You can like and follow her Facebook page to get all updates on the latest blogs and more:


  1. Nisha says:

    I would not lie, it does happen to me, sometimes. I feel the same way. But yeah, only we could overcome our mind traps. Loved how you penned it down.

  2. Urvashi says:

    I have been trying to explain this to one of my closest family members. You have done it beautifully and made my job easier. Sharing it❤️

  3. Sapna says:

    Agree.. It’s really wrong if we think everyone will understand our emotions

  4. If the person can strike peace with inner self things get better, great write up with so many real life situations when the person tends to think they are alone in grief.

  5. Noor Anand Chawla says:

    Beautifully written Cindy. I echo your sentiments- we should never think we are alone.

  6. Mariyum Aaquib says:

    This is so well explained, I tend to rewind and keep myself occupied in my hobbies to be attached to things I love and cope up. It’s difficult when you can’t explain it to the other person and tackle it all alone.

  7. There’s another one to it other than ‘Am I the only one’, and that is ‘Why me?’ and I think it’s even worse. But whatever the phrase is, we just need to find a way and know that we ain’t alone.

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