Many of us look nonchalant and brave on the outside while we are actually fighting with our emotions on the inside. Just because we smile and get on with our lives, does not mean we do not have any fears hiding within us. For many years, I have lived in fear and only a few loved ones knew about it. I was terrified of this particular thing and feared it may cause harm to me or people close to me.

What is Fear?

Fear is the strongest and most natural human emotion that alerts us to the possible danger or threat associated with it, whether real or imaginable. Fear exists in our thoughts, especially about the future. Unless someone or something is deliberately scaring us physically or mentally, fear is a choice. It is merely a product of our imagination.

Here is a poem I wrote about real FEAR:

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Dark-a-phobia by Cindy D’Silva

Why is it necessary to overcome our fears?

Living our lives in endless fear has serious consequences. Physical health implications are one of the main negative effects of fear. Other results of breathing in constant fear are impaired memory, clinical depression and interruptions in the functioning of our brain.

Did I overcome my fears? How?

I conveniently stayed away from my fear as much as I could. Years passed, but then came a day when I was forced to face my biggest fear. I sat down and thought hard about it. There was definitely no escape. I had to face it. Instead of increasing the anxiety in me, I tried hunting for a solution. Gradually, I gathered up all the courage I had in me, kept my loved ones safe at home and went out to encounter my fear alone. My mind was not ready, my heart felt like someone was pounding on it and my body was somewhat shivering.

But, then I told myself that I could do it. I could face it. Whatever happened, would happen for the best, even though the unforeseen future seemed scary at the time.

In the end, once I faced my fear, nothing, what I had imagined all these years, happened. Though I was alert, I felt myself at ease. Though I wasn’t very communicative, I still smiled genuinely and wondered why I was terrified all these years. Of course, I knew the reason why it started, but being attentive and alert would have sufficed instead of living in the fear of potential tragedies.

After my rendezvous with fear, I realized that the only way to overcome it was to accept it and face it, head on! I realized that the only thing that held me back was my own interpretation of things. Because I was scared, I created a web of scarier ‘maybe’s’ and ‘could be’s’ around me, thereby creating one big distressing bubble in my head. Have you ever crafted such a frightening simmer around yourself?

However, I would like to conclude with another positive fact. This was all about the human emotion called fear as a negative sensation. But I came across these impressive Benefits of Fear and I’m glad to say that I’m totally trying to do number 15 with this post of mine. I honestly hope this helps one of you too!

Do you live in constant fear of something or someone? Would you care to tell us more about it? Talking about it helps. Typing it is even easier so start moving those fingers NOW!

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  1. I loved it. It’s a Unique topic. Wonderful. thanks for sharing

  2. Neha Sharma says:

    It is not at all easy to face your fear but it is also true that more than the fear it is the scary bubble we create around it that stops us from facing the actual fear. You are so brave Cindy, you could confront & overcome your fear.

  3. Fear is an emotion known to evryone. Be it a child or an adult. Most importantly is how you overcome it. Loved your blog and your poem especially.

  4. Lovely post, feeling the emotion of fear is inevitable. But yes, how to cope and handling it is what we need to do.

  5. Varsh says:

    Beautiful poem. All of us some or the other thing we fear about and I agree that facing it is the only way to overcome it. I’m no longer afraid of dark like before.

  6. Raksha says:

    I feel all of us have encountered fear at some point in life. I have many fears and I have been trying to pick one after the other and trying hard to overcome/accept them. It’s been a tough journey but I have been trying without giving up.

  7. I agree. Sometimes fear is so gripping it renders you immobile. But the key is to keep moving, talking action in face of fear.

  8. Yes of course! Who hasn’t faced fears in some form of other?! Some of them we outgrow, but some only worsen with time. Fantastic post!

  9. Sundeep says:

    Facing fear is not easy especially if you have dealt with genuine trauma. Facing fear helps in healing brain. Loved your poem. Thanks for sharing 😊

  10. Urvashi says:

    I recently did a short series on human emotions. And I like how you have presented the feeling of fear. Loved your take on it.

  11. Overcoming fear is a great achievement and penning the same is very brave too. Liked the poetry in the post.

  12. Hansa Kajaria says:

    Humans are gripped with some or the other fear…. n it’s very imp to come face to face n over come that fear…. you are really brave to have over come your fear and face it and the poem you have penned is 👌

  13. First loved the poem. So beautifully you had expressed your emotions. I agree we all have different kind of emotions and insecurities in our life. Fear is one of them. I believe it is ok to have that emotion but more important is that how we deal with it. Adopting positive ways to deal with any negative emotions works best for me. Writing is one of the things that make me feel less stressed .

  14. Harjeet Kaur says:

    You’ve been very confronted your fear and overcome it. Penning down your thoughts like you did in the poem is the best way for release.When I used to teach personality dev to school kids I used to remove fear from their minds. I used to break down the word..FEAR= False Evidencies Appearing Real. There is nothing to fear in this world. Only One thing I know of is our own conscience.The rest is all imaginary..we create those impressions and dwell upon them. I used to make them write down their fears and clear each one.

  15. Beautifull penned poem Cindy! Well said to overcome any of your fear has the only way to accept it and to face it. The real power in the moment of the final encounter with the fear.

  16. Alpana says:

    Fear is such a strong emotion that even a strongest of a person can get carried away with it. The only way to handle fear is to face it. Gather all the courage and face it. And when we learn to handle it, it does not scare us anymore.

  17. Parul Malhotra says:

    Fear is not always bad for it has the power to push you beyond your boundaries. Loved the poem.

  18. Rakhi Parsai says:

    That is one of the most strongest emotion a human being can exhibit. Fear is something that makes a human do things that he would have never imagined in life.

  19. Shubhada Bhide says:

    There is always some or the other fear that I have faced but the best way to overcome is just accept that there is a fear and then try to find a solution for the same. face it and it’s done!

  20. Every person has different feeling and thoughts when it comes to fear. and if person gathers to overcome his fear then definitely he achieve something great in life.
    Overcoming fear ( it could be anything ) is not easy. This is a great post and you are absolutely right because if we talk someone for our fears it will definitely help us to release our anxiety too and help us to overcome it.

  21. Humaira says:

    Fear is the most powerful emotions. It has a very strong effect on your mind and body. Great thoughts.

  22. Siddhi says:

    This is the most heartfelt post I have read today. I esply love your poem Dark o phobia. Very prolific this is. Bring more of this.

  23. Tina Basu says:

    This is very good writing Cindy, poignant and resonating. Nicely done.

    • You did the right thing. Realising that the only way to overcome fear was to accept and face it, head on, was the best thing to do. Life teaches us many things but it doesn’t prepare us for facing some of our biggest fears.

  24. Nidhi KM says:

    I liked your statement of overcoming fear by facing it head on. This helps overcome any obstacle in life. The situation is never as bad as we create a sensation about it. I am trying to inculcate the habit of confronting fear in my kids as well. Don’t know if I will be able t succeed or not.

  25. Mrinal Kiran says:

    Not facing our fears makes them even worse… I am now trying to face them and break the patterns after burying them for years… Loved reading! ❤️

  26. Fear is one of the most primordial of emotions, something that is common to Man and all animals too. Everyone has some or the other fear, but the secret is their ability to manage it.

  27. Nupur says:

    I’m not sure if everyone is able to overcome fears so eloquently. Kudos to you for talking about this difficult topic.

  28. Fear seems much more of a deal than it really is until we face it and overcome it. Great post!

    • mummatalks says:

      You have penned the poem so beautifully and yes facing our fears and trying to over come it is very important rather den running away from it.

  29. Shreemayee Chattoppadhyay says:

    That’s such a nice topic. Every human being might have gone through fear of something. Only positive attitude towards life can bring them out of it. A very good article I must say.

  30. If I fear something, I have this strange urge to do that thing. And when done, I always think it was nothing to be feared about.

  31. Well written post. Fear of the unknown is most common.

  32. Priya Iyer says:

    This resonated deep. I am actually speechless. Incredible writing. Thank you for posting.

  33. Aditi Kapur says:

    Giving a sermon on courage is easy but fighting fear needs a lot of motivation. Loved the piece.

  34. This is beautifully penned!

  35. Nitisha says:

    Beautifully penned, Cindy. It’s very difficult to face our fears and I’ve always been too stubborn to do that.

  36. Ghazala Naseem says:

    A thoughtful post , I feel it’s in our mind more than in reality and we are the only one who can fight it . Initially it looks impossible but once we learn how to overcome it , it’s not that difficult.

  37. Rightly said, Cindy. Facing and accepting your fears is the best way to overcome it. Loved your poem too.

  38. Manisha Garg says:

    We all have things which we fear about. Your poem really puts across the feelings nicely. You were brave to face your fears.

  39. Sinjana says:

    The poem is deep n poignant. You have explored the feeling in a beautiful way

  40. Shamik says:

    Fear is that emotion in humans that hold them back to move ahead and try out things. It’s not necessary that it’s fear of the dark but a fear of failure is another thing that I would like to call about. Nice post and I’m glad that I had the opportunity to read the post. Thanks for sharing.

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