I recently thought about my own dating experiences when I was questioned about the days of my “Pursuit of Happiness”. It seems like a lifetime ago, but I tried hard to recollect both the good and bad moments in order to answer that question. Was it the one where he was 12 years older than me? Or the ones where they were younger than I was? Or was dating guys around my age the best? And then I thought about which one topped them all? Did their age really affect my relationships? Did I ever dominate the younger ones? Or did the older ones abuse me? Or did the ones around my age have the same ideas as me?
With my experience of dating guys through the age spectrum, I, personally think that dating is merely what we are searching for in order to fill the void we feel. It is dependent on what personality you can handle and how much work, time and effort you are willing to put into your relationships. You cannot be looking for a modern guy and be an orthodox believer yourself. Things may or may not go well. Perhaps, if you enjoy your personal space, you may most likely not be able to date a guy who is a frequent caller. It is natural to feel suffocated.
All men are d… ifferent. Generalizing them based on their age or by their caste or nationality is probably the first mistake we make in a relationship. Anyone of them can be sweet, overprotective, caring, annoying, obsessed with food or sex, take a bullet for you, try your patience, have no time for you or abuse you. It really does not matter where they came from. And age is certainly not a determining factor for how your relationship turns out.
After all the guys I have dated, it is my fair conclusion that age is not an important aspect to date someone. Though society approves when a girl dates or marries a guy older and richer than she is, age generally does not make or break your relationship, in any way. If you find yourself trying to prove your worth regularly then that may not be a commitment you would want to get into. In some cases, after the initial enthusiasm dies away, you may find that you both do not feel or want the same things. If you have no fights, some believe that it’s not a real relationship.
So you see? Age does not matter. After all, most of us enter into a relationship to enhance our experiences of life. It’s a phase to help us relax and escape from the perils of life. It’s a safe space where you can let your hair down and truly be you.
For those of you who have been in unpleasant relationships, can you relate to my thoughts? Do share with me your thoughts and experiences on what is important to you in a relationship.