As a teenager, I never took life seriously. I was busy trying to manage my emotions and hormonal changes. I was angry, rebellious and I instantly yelled at the slightest irritation. Then I started working and later joined a club. I got lost with whatever everyone else was doing. For example, if a few of my friends went to play a sport I did not play or enjoy, I would hang around watching until it was time to go home. I would fight with my mom so I could stay out late and do nothing with my friends on the beach.
There are many things I wished I had done differently back then but back then there were no blogs to guide me at the time. And I was definitely NOT the listening-to-mom types. Online reading was not an option; and, all we had were the television and newspapers to lead us.
Therefore, this article is dedicated to my 18-year-old self as well as my daughter when she comes of age. It is something I wish someone had told me back then. It is something I wish I had experienced back then. And it is certainly something I wish I had done instead of wasting time back then. The biggest example: If I had followed the below points, I would have probably written a book during my first pregnancy instead of watching television shows from 5pm to 1am every single day! I mean peace and quiet time were mostly what I had while I was expecting.
So, I want to travel back in time and tell my 18-year-old self, and my daughter, this:
Moreover, do not be afraid to make mistakes, instead, learn from them. Life is not a bed of roses, as it may seem while living with your parents so, be grateful for whatever you have. Sometimes, it’s better to keep the ego aside and listen. There may be plenty of heartaches and heartbreaks, but you have to stay strong, get over it and move on. Take life one day at a time. Be humble but learn to say no when you have to. You are going to come across many obstacles and people who will put you down in many ways than one, but you will one day become an inspiration to many, only if you learn to get around those hindrances and still smile bravely!
With lots of love and encouragement,
A 38-year-old Cindy, and your mom!
Is there anything you would like to tell your 18-year-old self? Do mention it in the comments below!