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Daughter to Mother


I hardly ever say this, but I love you. You are my lifeline. You are my everything.

As a child, I always thought you were the bad cop while Father was the good one who, according to everyone, loved me very much. Though I wanted you both by my side, you were always the busy one and I did not get a chance to know you well. So, I admired Father alone because he was my protector, the one who destroyed anyone that hurt me. Little did I know that you were the one responsible for keeping our family under a roof that we so easily took for granted.

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My mom and me many years ago

When I was a young girl, I remember being close to you. Yes, you were the parent with the slipper in case I was disobedient, but that’s how I have grown up to be what I am today. I have always seen you working, night and day, indoors and outdoors. I have always seen your kindness to everyone around you. I have also seen you being mistreated by a few and, for some reason; I always thought of myself as your shield, against whoever it was that tried harming you. I still do.

Then, Father passed away and I cried. I cried a lot. I wanted him back. I wasn’t sure how he decided to leave us and go to a place we couldn’t even visit. I had a whole lot of self-blaming that I put myself through and never fathomed in my slightest reverie that he had left you too. While dwelling in my own sorrow, I did not realize the pain, which you were going through, as a widow and the distress that followed, as a single mother in a man’s world. Yet, life went on.

Soon after, as I reached my teenage years, I started drifting away from you because I was still looking for a protector as I missed Father a lot. I needed that male figure to care for me like he did. I needed to be someone’s princess, like I was his. I did not understand how much you missed your daughter then but my teenage tantrums and your overprotection did not allow me to understand what I was getting myself into. I did not realize then that I was already someone’s princess; YOURS.

the coffee mug that represents love
Coffee Mug creative by me

Somewhere during my adulthood and on the way to a married life, I was excited and having the time of my life with my new found friendship. I wanted to take care of you, when you weren’t in the best of health, and I wanted to enjoy my life simultaneously. I took you for granted because, deep down, I knew that whatever happened, you would always be with me and forgive me. There were times that I regretted leaving you alone and cried my heart out at night because I did not know how to capably handle both parts of my life. I felt you were missing me too.

When I was gifted with a beautiful little princess, memories made you tell me that you were ecstatic when God had gifted you with a Queen, ME! I smiled and wanted to cry with shame, not because I regretted being your daughter, but because I felt awful for not being the perfect one.

Now, as we are a few miles apart, I miss your presence. I miss telling you about all the exciting information I’ve come across. I miss you when life gets stressful and confusing. I miss you when I cannot express my feelings to my husband and kids. I miss you when I need a lap to relax on. Of course, I know I am a big girl now and have to take care of myself and my family but how can I get back the time I was living with you surrounded by your unconditional love and affection? How can I forget all the magnificent years we have spent together; laughing, shopping and doing all the girly stuff? I miss all that, and more.

Mother, you aren’t only a wonderful parent but an inspirational woman too. I have seen your penchant to make lemonade when life has many a times thrown lemons at you. You have been our mother, father, nanny, baby-sitter, friend, cook, helper, tuition teacher, driver, grocery buyer, electrician, carpenter and so much more and I know I can never do as much as you did for us. You deserve the finest in life because you are the best and no one can take your place; not even me, though I’m trying my level best to be an inspiration to your darling grand-daughter, who loves you to bits too.

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Mom and me

Wishing you a Happy Mother’s Day though I feel there should be a Mother’s Day every single day of the year, especially for mothers like you! I love you.

Your Darling Dotter.

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Cindy D'Silva
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  1. Arushi Seth says:

    That was a very emotional and honest post. We often neglect our parents and take them for granted. You always understand the sacrifices of a mother and how she feels when you become a mother and sometimes that gets too late. We all must consciously be more attentive to needs of our parents

  2. Mothers are irreplaceable, and because we are always daddy’s girls we don’t value them until we get married. Your letter wants me to go and hug my mom.

  3. That’s a very heart touching post. I can feel your emotions, mother’s are best they know everything before we speak with them. Now, after becoming a mom I understand my mother’s emotions and concern better, this is life.

  4. Simrit Bedi says:

    Ur post made me very emotional..we taker our parents for granted and realise their value only when we are far from’s a beautiful post

  5. Lovely post dear. We really understand the importance of our mothers after we become one. The sacrifice they made is not comparative.

  6. The only smiling face I find when I close my eyes during my bad times is of my mother. Today she is bed ridden and hardly can move but whenever I call her, she does not forget to ask if I have taken my food properly. No one will do that ever.

  7. Tina Basu says:

    we realise how much our moms mean to us much later in life, when we are staying away from them. This is such an emotional post.

  8. Jhilmil says:

    This is so beautiful Cindy, you’ve penned down every emotion as a daughter very nicely. Your mom should be proud of having you as a daughter.

  9. Varsh says:

    Your post brought tears to my eyes and made me miss my Mom even more. Moms are often disciplinarians and hence misunderstood but they love us the most.

  10. Snigdha says:

    This made me emotional . You have put your heart here dear… Loved it completely.

  11. Brinda says:

    What a wonderful tribute to your mother! It’s a lovely essay to be treasured! Love the wya you have written this…

  12. Yogita Joshi says:

    You wrote it so perfectly. I can feel every emotion you put into it. Moms are always special. I have goosebumps while reading this…

  13. MeenalSonal says:

    This is very heartfelt post, yes sometimes we take our parents for granted. Good that realisation is quick and we be there with our parents always.

  14. Ruchi Verma says:

    It’s actually true that we realize little later in life about the value and sacrifices done by our moms …recently I have written a letter too for my daughter hope she will read and learn the lessons of life !!

  15. Rashmi Singh says:

    Aww such a beautiful and heartfelt letter dear, you made me emotional. Very well written ❤

  16. We realize the value of our Moms only after we get married and after we become one ourselves. You have put the thoughts of all daughters into words, Cindy. Beautiful post!

  17. Your mother must be proud of you Cindy. Your love and respect for her are clearly seen in the letter. Hope she gets a chance to read this.

  18. I agree cindy , we take our mother’s love and care for granted and did not realized its importance and exact place in our life. I loved the way you had shared your love, care and respect for your mother in this post. I also feel the same emotions for my mother, and missed her so much here in USA.

  19. Alpana Deo says:

    Cindy, this is so so beautiful and heartfelt. I read is twice. You have created magic with your words here.

    Yes, only one day as mother’s day is not enough for such selfless souls. They give up everything to nurture us.
    Did your mom read this letter?

  20. My mother is my world ..and i am emotional here ..hehe anyways ..hats off girl for writing such a beautiful letter to her and sharing this with us..she should be always treated as important and valuable by us❣️

  21. This is such a beautifully curated letter for a mother who has always put her child over everything else. Made me emotional. Lovely post.

  22. Manisha Garg says:

    Such a beautiful heartfelt letter made me a bit emotional. Going through the journey of life you realise your mother’s importance and how she has always been the pillar of support for us. Here a grand salute to all the Moms of the World because you make us.

  23. Beautiful. Thanks for this. Made me emotional. Mothers everywhere are so underrated for what they do for us. An entire lifetime will be less to thank them.

  24. Urvashi says:

    It takes courage and iron heart to share your true feelings and emotions with this world. I am so touched. There has never been a moment since the day my dad passed that we haven’t missed him and your letter has made me realise there is much more pain and sadness that my mom so strongly hides behind her smiles just for us.

  25. Jenifer says:

    Awww such a beautiful piece of article.
    Also I loved the mug creative done by u.

    God bless

  26. Vibha Bhat says:

    Awww man this made me so emotional I don’t know how you penned this so beautifully. My mom’s the bad cop too I think I realized more about my mistakes once I became a mom

  27. A very beautiful letter with full of thoughts and emotions. Loved reading it.

    PS. I too am not a person who would say ‘I Love You’ often enough, but we don’t always need words to say that, do we?

  28. This is such a heartfelt letter, I can relate to so many things said in this one.

  29. Richa Singh says:

    This is beyond beautiful 💜 very well written dear, really brought tears to my eyes 💜

  30. Shasha says:

    This is beautifully written!!! I had tears while reading.

  31. Mariyum says:

    This is so heartfelt. A very happy Mother’s Day to u and ur mom

  32. I can relate to this very well. My father is a good cop too, so naturally iam inclined to my father in my childhood but after becoming a mother myself, I understand my mother more now.

  33. Fatima says:

    Too good, very well written buddy 😘❤️

  34. Wilma says:

    Not easy for a single mom who has to make her path in a male dominated society. Your mum a very strong woman.

  35. This was quite an emotional read Cindy, and very well-written. #LetsBlogWithPri

  36. Beautifully put. Your mom is a really strong mom and has raised you beautifully!

  37. priya fernandes says:

    Beautifully wrtitten..!!!

  38. Lizann says:

    Loved it Cindy 😃

  39. Cherryl Fernandes says:

    Great read Cindy, made me emotional.

  40. Uncle Mario says:

    Don’t go breaking my heart. I love you very much my sweetheart.

    • Anusha says:

      Beautiful one!
      I have heard somewhere.. ‘the most powerful words are there in your story ‘ when someone shares their story , they are letting u to experience their etire life experiences ..
      Got goosebumps while reading…
      A Mother is someone who is always been taken granted by everyone in that family.. though she does anything and everything for the family. And when we have a daughter then we can relate and understand so many things where we went wrong or missed to understand our mom .

      Thanks for sharing and it’s quite emotional!

  41. Shonali Deokule says:

    Hi Cindy,

    While I did enjoy reading this, it also brought tears to my eyes! Well written!!

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