We have always looked for happiness in everything and everyone. As children, our parents go to great lengths just to get a smile on our little faces. Though dad is never at home, he brings us a toy that makes us happy. Even if mom is at home, she’s busy with the home chores, so, she prepares a scrumptious meal to satisfy our tummies.
In school, our teachers are always making us happy with star stickers or full marks. During our growing years, if we are lucky, we have friends who try and make us happy by keeping in touch or taking us out to exciting places. And then as adults, we try to find happiness in making money and accumulating wealth or in our children. Most of us also expect our spouses to keep us happy.
A friend once told me that he would be happy once he bought a house for his parents. After he bought a house, he said he would be happy once he got a wife. After he got a wife, he was still not content because he was stressed about the increased expenses, home loan and so on. So, what really are the things that make you happy? Do you find happiness in food, wealth, kids, spouses, gifts or all of the above?
As a child, I, myself, would always be dissatisfied, bored and unhappy. I always expected my single mom to make me happy with gifts and outfits. I didn’t know how to handle myself and my hot temperament definitely didn’t help. Then, when I got older, I expected my boyfriend, partner or husband to keep me happy. And, naturally, when the opposite would take place, I would go into sulk-mode.
But, there is always a saturation point in our lives when we stop, think, grow up and calm down. We learn to be happy with whatever we have. We learn to be happy with whoever we are. We learn to be happy with however we are. Or, some of us take the plunge, change our outlook of life and start progressing towards inner contentment.
What is inner contentment?
Inner contentment is the feeling of inner peace and happiness, whatever the circumstances. It is being happy with what you have at present. When you are content from within, you realize that happiness does not come from materialistic things or other people. When you have a strong sense of contentment, it doesn’t matter whether you obtain the object you desire, or not. Either way, you are still content.
So, when I finally understood that the essence of true happiness simply lied within me, I believe I matured as a person. I learnt to accept the things that were happening around me (that I didn’t like) and began appreciating the people around me for whatever they did (despite my feelings for them). I learnt to stop depending on others to keep me happy. I learnt to ignore the crap around me and concentrate on the good and positives instead. I learnt how to smile from within.
And, from then on, I thought I looked beautiful because I felt beautiful.
Am I making sense here? What are your views on happiness?