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WHY A BABYSITTER WHEN I’M A S-A-H-M?

Published by Cindy D'Silva at July 15, 2017
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Babysitter?

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So, here I am, sitting in peace, watching the sun shine through the trees, right in front of my window, listening to the clear sound of the birds chirping in the skies. I, somehow, never noticed that spider webs were unevenly distributed all over the ceiling of my balcony. How come I noticed it today? It’s because my daughter is at school and my baby is at the babysitter. Yes, I’m a stay-at-home-mother but I still keep him with the babysitter for around four hours per day. I can use this time to sleep as well. All of you know how sleep deprived a mother, to a one-year-old, can be.

Everyone gives me a weird look when I tell them that my baby is not at home during the mornings. It is like asking me why I needed a babysitter if I’m not a working mother. Housewives, or home-makers, are supposed to do house chores and handle the kids at home. Anyway, along with my daughter, my little son is also out of the house for those few hours. I get back home after dropping them off to their respective workplaces and head to the kitchen to prepare a delicious breakfast, poached eggs and bacon, which I can devour in peace. Please note that the word ‘peace’ will be used many times in this piece of writing. So, I eat and relish what I’ve prepared at the same time without having my heart in my mouth because my son is dancing on a chair (he can barely walk yet).

Yes, he is in the very next building which is only twenty steps from mine. I need that time to be with my husband. We need the time to spend as a couple. I need that time alone with him to punch and scratch him because he yelled at me, in front of the kids, the previous day. I am too good a mother to reciprocate in the same manner when my children are around, so I wait, until the time is right, to attack.

How many of you have had to place a stool in the lavatory so your little one can sit and watch you bathe or relieve yourself while answering a hundred questions? Well, I did this with my daughter but my son wants to get off it and examine the bathroom brushes and to my disgust, the drain. Imagine the stress I do not have to put up with if I have a bath during the few hours he is enjoying himself with the other children at the crèche. My body and internal system, both, remain clean and I feel fresh.

Check ways to spend more ME TIME on yourself!

I have been trying to watch ‘Suits’ ever since the first season was released. I was unable to concentrate due to the noise and questions and barks thrown in my face. I gave up. Now, I can even watch a movie during this time while keeping my hands occupied with painting something, without trying to save the paints from being picked up and upturned by a curious toddler. I’m still not used to not having him around in the mornings, so I look around suspiciously before I begin painting. Will show you what I’ve painted once I’m done with it.

Walking around while carrying seven kilograms on your shoulders is not a joke and pushing a stroller carrying seven kilograms in it, isn’t a joke either. Everywhere I go, I’ve been pushing a baby carriage since 2012. It’s 2017 and nothing has changed, except for the weight and gender relaxing in the pram that tags along with me. Whether I have to buy the groceries or shape my eyebrows, I have to drive the carriage wherever I go. Now, I can schedule a pedicure during these few hours of mine. I can also pass by the gift shop in peace otherwise I am busy dragging the little one out, and forcing the unwanted toy out of his little hands but tight grip.

Let’s face it, the older you get, whether you are young at heart or not, your body tends to react negatively to anything tasty. This is the time you realize you should have had a healthier lifestyle all these years. This is the time you think of hitting the treadmill and wonder why you did not think of it all these years. Yes, I began hitting the treadmill, after my first delivery, in vain. I was bored in ten days. So, now I use a part of the precious hours to belly dance because that’s what my body responds to, positively. I have swimming on my mind too, but the cool weather does not encourage me to visit the pool yet.

And lastly, I can read or write in peace, like I’m doing right now. I can sit with my laptop and pay my bills, check my mail, keep in touch with my friends and write. My goal of writing at least one article a week can, perhaps, become a reality. I’m sure there are plenty of other things I could do during these hours but right now, it has only been two weeks. I was quite paranoid about sending my daughter to a babysitter or leaving her alone with a nanny but the fatigue my tiny son has put me through has driven me to send him to the babysitter. Of course, I analyse his behaviour and see to it that he enjoys himself with the children there. Let’s hope my precious hours last for at least a little while more.

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32 Comments

  1. Neha Jain says:
    March 8, 2020 at 18:40

    This is really an important topic, stay at home moms also need some time for themselves as it helps them get back to work with full energy.

    Reply
  2. Heena Dhedhi says:
    March 8, 2020 at 15:41

    I am a stay at home home and I still need a lot of help as I’m raising two kids and help is always welcome as they let me be me, which is equally important.

    Reply
  3. Amrit Kaur says:
    March 8, 2020 at 11:44

    Ebery women needs some me time to pamper herself and fulfill her dreams. But mothers do great job while multitasking.

    Reply
  4. Tina Basu says:
    March 8, 2020 at 10:25

    Kids can be a handful. I had kept a baby sitter for my son when he was younger around 1 or 2 but he didnt like being with any of them. They only watched TV. so I had to say no to keeping baby sitters!

    Reply
  5. Dr Bushra says:
    March 7, 2020 at 22:07

    I can easily relate what a mom struggle through while upbringing kids. It’s not easy to balance life after marriage. And yes me time should not be ignored. Thus is indeed inspiring for all mommies out there

    Reply
  6. Jhilmil says:
    March 7, 2020 at 20:39

    Babysitter is always a blessing, as new mums, we too need time for ourselves. As you said a good sleep is so important

    Reply
  7. Neha Sharma says:
    March 7, 2020 at 18:54

    I can totally relate to you, Cindy. Even I am sending my son to daycare after school and every time I meet someone they only ask me why I’m keeping him away from home when I am not working. I don’t understand why people look at it in a negative light and why do they think that mothers are not supposed to have time for themselves. I strongly urge people to stop judging mothers!

    Reply
  8. Truly Yours Roma says:
    March 7, 2020 at 15:39

    I am so glad you have chosen some time for yourself buddy for I know how vital it is. Forget about what the world says.

    Reply
  9. Smitha N says:
    March 7, 2020 at 13:35

    I always make my me time because it’s really important for every individual to follow it.. 1st we should focus on self as that is important…

    Reply
  10. Deepika Mishra says:
    March 7, 2020 at 11:26

    I relate to this dear! I am a stay at home mom with two kids and I don’t have a baby sitter. I know what I face on a daily basis. I live in a nuclear family so I can’t take proper sleep and this affects my health too. I think it is a wise decision.

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  11. Varsh says:
    March 7, 2020 at 11:21

    Sending our kids to a babysitter is not is an individual choice. I know of other moms who do this too. Wonder why this should be any reason to judge. Me time is important for moms too.

    Reply
  12. Anahita Irani says:
    March 5, 2020 at 21:08

    Fantastic post, I could relate so much. This is because I know the importance of Me time and glad I find this experience fulfilling

    Reply
  13. MeenalSonal Mathur says:
    March 5, 2020 at 06:37

    Ofcourse SAHM also need few hours of ME time, surely you have a right move for all to be in peace:)

    Reply
  14. Pinal Shah says:
    March 2, 2020 at 17:10

    I believe there isn’t any women who dosen’t like having some time for their own self out of their bzy schedules.😊. I ‘ve always been a fan of having some ” ME TIME” as it lets me be “ME”

    Reply
    • Cindy D'Silva says:
      March 3, 2020 at 20:26

      True. Me Time is tooooo tempting!

      Reply
  15. Brinda says:
    February 17, 2020 at 21:52

    I don’t think there anything wrong with wanting to get some time to yourself for work, errands or to relax. I’m glad you’re doing it and also writing about it so that other mothers think about this too. The child is experiencing, learning and having fun with other children his age too so it’s a win-win situation all-round!

    Reply
  16. Simrit Bedi says:
    February 17, 2020 at 18:17

    I completely understand you. There is no shame in hiring a baby sitter. This doesn’t make you a bad mom. In fact it gives your the time to think better and rejuvenate yourself to enable you to spend time with your kids better

    Reply
  17. Priyal Poddar says:
    February 17, 2020 at 15:20

    This is what I am going through now, I really need some me time for me, no work, no family no friends. Just me and my time at least for 2-3 days to feel good from inside.

    Reply
  18. Preeti tiwari says:
    February 17, 2020 at 08:43

    So true…people here think that it’s the responsibility of sahm to take care of kids,house and everything, people don’t think that we also need to me time,some personal space where we get some mental peace and time to pamper yourself.

    Reply
  19. Harjeet Kaur says:
    February 14, 2020 at 12:14

    Kids can be such a handful. Balancing everything nowadays in nuclear families needs superpowers. You are lucky he is at arm’s length. All the best girl 🙂

    Reply
  20. Yogita Joshi says:
    February 13, 2020 at 18:11

    Me time is indeed very important and I can say this coz I missed this with my son. I raised my son all alone without any help at home. In the chaos of taking care of him and household chores, i somewhere missed myself. And I really felt in those intial 3 years, i missed being me and I was frustrated many time coz i was over burdened with responsibilities.

    Reply
    • Cindy D'Silva says:
      February 14, 2020 at 12:35

      I like that you have used the word WAS. That means now you are all settled and happy with yourself! 😃

      Reply
  21. ginia says:
    February 11, 2020 at 21:32

    interesting read. me time is extremely important for everybody for mental peace.

    Reply
  22. Mrinal Kiran says:
    February 11, 2020 at 20:34

    Everyone needs time for themselves… Hiring a baby sitter is absolutely fine even when you are a stay at home mom! ❤️

    Reply
  23. Sapna says:
    February 11, 2020 at 20:01

    Getting free time after u have kids is something impossible

    Reply
  24. Noor Anand Chawla says:
    February 11, 2020 at 19:07

    I totally understand the need for personal space and to be able to enjoy a moment (or a couple of hours) to oneself. It is essential to overall well-being.

    Reply
  25. Rahul Prabhakar says:
    February 11, 2020 at 18:33

    You have done the right thing by having some me time. It is your prerogative to remain healthy and do whatever you wish to do with that free time.

    Reply
  26. Jenifer says:
    February 11, 2020 at 17:02

    So much sacrifice & difficulties in motherhood. Hope I experience it too soon.
    And hope u have the best of the free time.

    Reply
  27. Sundeep says:
    February 11, 2020 at 14:59

    A Stay At Home Mom also needs support in raising a kid. She also deserves her me time and an occasional break from raising the kid. A babysitter is required in many cases with even S-A-H-M.

    Reply
  28. Urvashi says:
    February 11, 2020 at 11:47

    Oh dear ! you spoke my heart.. I dread everyday just to get few hours. My son has rejected the day school after flu and ever since decided to be at home only. Am struggling and wishing it will change. Happy to hear that you have some peace.

    Reply
    • Cindy D'Silva says:
      February 11, 2020 at 12:14

      Yeah it was tough in the beginning with him yelling and howling every morning but now he has started Montessori and has gotten used to it as of this month.

      Reply
    • Docdivatraveller says:
      February 11, 2020 at 21:29

      You have touched a very important topic for mommies as well as the family. This thought needs to go. We all need me time for our sanity.

      Reply

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