With great excitement I bought my daughter a story book, to read to her at night. It was pink and filled with princesses.
We wanted our little girl to indulge in a few pretty stories of a world that did not exist. The idea, of buying a ‘Princess’ story book for our little Princess, was enthralling. One was Belle, one was named Cinderella, one was Snow White and one was Sleeping Beauty. Haven’t most of us grown up wanting to be like these beauties? And, like we wanted to be princesses then, our daughters, too, want to be princesses now, don’t they? Nostalgia set in while I was at the library.
But when I got back home, I realized I no more had qualms of being a Princess myself. Nowadays, I just think, act and breathe like a mother. So, one night while reading one of the stories, it was no surprise that it struck a chord when I suddenly realized that all the princesses, despite their different endearing tales, ended up kissing a prince in order to live happily ever after. All of a sudden, I wanted to throw the book away.
Was that what I wanted my girl to learn? Was finding a Prince supposed to be the ultimate goal of her life? Would she find happiness only once a man fell in love with her? Surely, we have to appreciate the fact that these stories were made child friendly, from the original adult stories that had horrifying endings, but why let our girls grow up thinking that they needed a man to accept and love them in order to be happy? What happens after that?
I was on a mission to give away all the books which stressed on soft and fragile girls waiting for their princes to sweep them off their feet. I did not want to explain to my daughter why the girls were excited to meet boys. I kept the ones where romance wasn’t stressed on, like Hansel and Gretel, Goldilocks, Red Riding Hood, The Big Pancake, The Emperor’s New Clothes, Three Little Pigs and a few more. Barbie had some nice books where the girls were tough and had a happy ending by being strong, brave or magical. Then there came books like Rebel Girls and the like which highlighted real ambitious women who made a difference. Finally, I was content with my daughter’s mini library.
Personally, I think if we want to see a change, we have to start being the change instead of blindly following our ancestor’s way of thinking or doing things. Let us start teaching our daughters to live happily ever after, irrespective of whether they find their Prince Charming or not. Let us teach them to stand up for what they believe in. Let us also teach our sons that they don’t have to marry just to have someone take care of them. Let’s show them how to take care of themselves, too. Let’s teach our kids to dream big, respect others, set goals for themselves and take action!
What is your take on the Princess stories? Do you agree with me or is there another way of looking at the stories on vulnerable women. Do give me your feedback on this article in the comments below.
#LetsBlogwithPri is a Blog Train hosted by Prisha Lalwani, Author at Mummasaurus. I wholeheartedly thank Disha Mehrotra, Author at Life My Way, for introducing me in her blog about loving yourself unconditionally. Also, I would like to introduce Sweta Kachhap, Author at Cloud and Sunshine. Do read her review on a book for children.