Generally, I am always thinking; thinking about what to do today or thinking what to cook today or thinking what to write today. While doing anything else, these three things are always on my mind at different times. On visiting a friend, something struck me like lightning and I thought of elaborating on it with my writing because, well, that’s what I do.
I started gaining weight after I was married, not after having a baby but much before the pregnancy. I wondered why but now, after pondering on it, I understood why many of us, wives, get fat. Let me list them out for you so you can probably think about it and, if you want, work on the same. But remember, determination is the only thing that will get you anywhere in life.
Today, everyone wants to lose weight and everyone wants to do it as fast as possible with little or no hard work from their end. Do you really think you can gain something without working your ass off for it? Whether it is for money, a figure or a big house, you have to work hard for it. Likewise, if we don’t watch what we eat and take care of ourselves, we will keep increasing weight. Today, our lifestyle is our biggest enemy, then comes the dirty 30s when each grain of rice starts to matter.
Love and ghee: Usually, after we get married or perhaps even before that if we are living in a joint family, if the elders in the house do not know about healthy living, the younger ones suffer out of ignorance or respect. Imagine your favourite aunt making ghee ladoos or deep fried bajyas. The aroma itself is making your hunger pangs go bonkers. What will you do? Instead of saying no to them when offered to you, you will eat it for any of the three reasons: 1. It is tea time and you are hungry. 2. You don’t want to upset your favourite aunt. 3. Whether you like it or not, you have to eat it because it was made with the love you are being forced to digest.
Not saying No: How many of us will say no? Well, I say no to both the above and more, like tea, coffee, chocolate, biscuit, deep fried items (which may or may not include loads of love and oil), etc. Yet, I’m getting fat because of my enormous appetite for rice, like a typical Mangalorean. Imagine my size if I ate all of the above too. Yes, I dance but I do not practice it as often as I should so, practically speaking, I need to keep my diet on check.
Waiting to eat: Another way of getting our calories to rise is irregular food habits. Besides missing your breakfast and lunch, many housewives wait for their husbands to eat. If your husband is home on time, you can do that but what if he himself has irregular timings or gets stuck somewhere regularly? Do you still wait for him to come home and eat or are you made to wait for him so that there’s a full house at the dinner table? Stick to your timings and munch on a fruit, to give him company, when he is home late. The earlier you eat, the better it is for your system to slowly digest the food.
Depression: Many people have the inclination to eat, generally easily available junk, when they are over stressed or depressed. Besides irregular hormonal changes, your weight increases which further depresses you. Try keeping your mind off anyone who depresses you, including your husband. Keep yourself busy with something that you enjoy doing. To shift my focus, I paint.
Restaurant food: After I met my husband, I realized that I continued eating at restaurants but I stopped walking like I used to. Kuwait, the place I was born, bred and married, has amazing food and we would regularly visit KFC or Pizza Hut without any aerobics in the plan. Only when I found my tops choking my chest, I quickly switched to having oats for breakfast. This helped quite a lot because of its health benefits and the fact that I was having my breakfast every morning. Probably, this is what you call a balanced diet. 😛
Work: The other side of a housewife waiting is the husband at work. Whether you are working at home or in the office, give your stomach some time and fill it with healthy food so it will take care of you in the future. Only you can consciously make yourself do this, not your wife, not your husband, not anyone else. If you are determined to stay healthy and eat on time, you can without depending on anyone else to feed you. I used to keep apples handy so I don’t go digging for fast food joints when hunger strikes.
It’s time to change our lifestyle, our thinking, our friends, and concentrate on those that love you and encourage you and spread positive vibes around you. Whereas getting fat is concerned, no one can help you but you. I am still working on myself, as you can see in the picture (purposely smudged), what about you?